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The smoke and mirrors of ourselves

Go stand in front of the mirror. What do you see? Describe that person. How accurately can you describe him/her? Is your description right? According to who? You?

We live in a world where there are absolutes and relatives. The absolutes make our lives better. For example science and technology. The relatives keep us hungry. For example, the need to be better, the need to be appreciated, the need to be included. The absolutes set you on a quest where you can find gold at your destination. The relatives will set you on a quest where you will find just another quest at the destination. What’s more important? Should we put our trust in the absolutes only or should we put our trust in the ongoing quest of relatives? I don’t really know. I guess, there is no absolute answer to it.

What do you see in that mirror? If you see a guy or a girl with hair on the head, a nose in the middle, 2lips, 2 eyes and 2 ears, you see the absolute. If you see a person who is beautiful, a person who has full lips and eyes that are kind or sensuous and cheeks that are red then you see the relative.
The other question is who are you, really? The definition of you is according to who? Are you the way you look at you? Are you the way your spouse looks at you or are you the person the way your mom looks at you? Are you what your friends think of you? Or are you what an extensive report made by a psychoanalyst says about you?


Let’s say the psychoanalyst has the most accurate picture of you, as is. It takes absolutely no time from going to as is to as you want to be. So how accurate is it? Then is the quest of who you are, worth it?

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